Having someone truly understand your circumstances and your situation, openly, honestly, and without judgement – it really makes all the difference. A parent, a relative, a friend – it could be anyone.
More often than not, these are the people that have let us down the most. In place of where we need and expect those closest to us to understand, there’s an agenda for how we should be, and how we should think, what we’re supposed to accept – mostly from a place of love and care.
But it’s not what we want. It’s not what we need.
Having someone real, in person, truly and deeply understanding your experience and perspective of life woud really make all the difference.
As a full-time Carer, it’s something that I feel is lacking profoundly in my life right now. I’m certain though, were there even some remote semblance of a network (a family network, an old friends network, a past employer’s network, even a community network), I would do my best to be that person for someone else.
When you’re disconnected for so long, it’s difficult to create or re-create those connections. A lot of hard work is involved, and I’m not sure I have the energy to spare for it.